“Energy vampires” are people who constantly draw on other
people’s energy to help charge their own system.
There are
certain things you need to do when dealing with “energy vampires” in order to
help minimize the affect they will have on your life. These tips also tend to
be the same tips, as how to deal with negative people in your life, as they
essentially fall into the same category. (So you can use energy vampires and
negative people interchangeably.)
8 Tips For Dealing
With “Energy Vampires”
& Negative People
1) Awareness!
Awareness is
always the key when you are dealing with psychic senses. When you are aware of
what energy vampires are, then it is good idea to take a mental note of all of
the people in your life who fit this description. People who you are around
often, friends, family, and coworkers. Don’t freak out if this list contains
most of the people who you know, like I mentioned, it is likely that 70% of the
people who you know will match this description. When you are “aware” of who
they are, you can then prepare yourself before being in their presence.
2) Bubble yourself.
This is a short
“meditation” in a sense. I actually suggest that upon becoming aware of energy
vampires you “bubble” yourself every morning after you wake up. Then bubble
yourself again before going into the line of fire, so to speak, or before you
go into a place where you might be vulnerable. (Empaths should always do this!)
“Bubble” Meditation
This is just like it sounds. Before you go into
a place filled with people you need to bubble yourself. This is like a quick
meditation but it does not have too take long. You can easily do this in a
couple of minutes, it just important that you do it. A quick two-minute bubble
is way better then no bubble at all! In fact that is all you really need. I
will walk you through the steps here.
1) Find a quiet place where you will not be disturbed. (However,
if you forget to do this before you go out, you can do this in the car before
you go in someplace easily enough).
2) Sit
comfortably in an up right position. Hands to your side and feet flat on the
floor, do not cross your hands, feet or legs.
3) Close your
eyes and concentrate on your breathing. Slow your breathing to a relaxed state.
4) When your
breathing is rhythmic, then concentrate on relaxing all of the muscles in your
body.
5) Next imagine
a white light of pure powerful energy coming down from above your head, this
white light is from the Holy Spirit, God, or source (whatever you are
comfortable with). Feel this energy come through the roof of your house or car,
and allow it to gently enter your system through your seventh chakra, or the
top of your head. This energy feels good, empowering and protective.
6) Allow this
white light energy to touch each chakra while it recharges your spiritual body.
Continue to let the white light flow through your system until you feel fully
charged.
7) Next allow
the excess energy to fill a bubble around you. “Feel and direct” this white
light energy by way of thought to form a large bubble surrounding around your
entire being. This powerful white light is recharging your energetic field with
new energy, strong and protective energy. Feel this energy charging your system
as it continues out into the bubble. Once the bubble is full, feel the strength
of the bubble. Nothing can penetrate the bubble from the outside. It is like a
protective barrier around your being.
8) Remain in
this state until you feel a sense of completion, then release this image into
the Universe and go about your day.
There is no
right or wrong as to the time you spend creating the bubble, you should adjust
the time to whatever feels right to you. It will help to protect you from
“energetic vampires”, which empaths are extremely susceptible to, more so than
most people. This bubble works as a barrier to outside energies.
3) Learn how not to take things so personally.
This will help you to strengthen your energy. When someone
says something to upset you or something mean to you, it is hard not to take
things personally. It is hard not to get your feelings hurt, or not to become
upset, because it feels like you have just been assaulted somehow. This is a
very common reaction, yet not the best reaction to have. When you take things
personally you make an energetic shift into more of a victim mentality. Victims
are very prone to “energy leaks” and your system will feel weak, not strong.
Plus, it is important to remember:
When someone says something intentionally to hurt you (even
if they are good people), it is done with the intent of bringing your vibration
down.
Ask yourself,
“What is causing them to want to bring my vibration down?” This allows you to
release it right away, as you are preoccupied with trying to figure out the
answer to this question. And you will find out, most of the time, you will know
the answer right away!
4) Find a subject they like to talk about.
When people find
something that they like to talk about, you will feel their energy shift right
away. Their vibration immediately begins to rise. It is the best trick I ever
learned. So when you find yourself around someone who is negative, find their
soft spot and ask them about it.
It’s all about distraction and
redirecting their energy to something that brings them joy.
Happiness and
joy will always raise your vibration no matter who you are. They will forget
about everything else for a minute and they will get excited. For instance if
you know they love to garden, talk to them about gardening. If they like
sports, bring up that subject. You don’t have to know one thing about the
subject they are interested in, just ask them questions. They love to answer
questions! It makes them feel good and you may even learn something in the mean
time.
5) Limit your time with them.
If they call you
on the phone, don’t always answer, and when you do, keep it short. If you see
them in person, excuse yourself quickly, even if you have to make up something
to do. Yes, even if you have to lie! Many times it is the only way out,
especially if you do not want to “hurt” their feelings. Most people feel they
must “deal” with their family no matter what, just because they are family. Not
true. It is a choice, and if family members happen to be causing you
discomfort, you are allowed to limit your time with them. It does not make you
a bad person, it makes you different people, with very different vibrations. It
makes you very aware of wanting to stay spiritually and physically healthy.
That does not make you selfish, it makes you smart.
Steer clear of people who often use the
words “your selfish”. HUGE indicator of being an energy vampire and of low
vibration!
What these
people are really saying is, “You are not doing what makes me feel good! You
are only doing what makes you feel good and that is selfish!” What? Isn’t that
what we are supposed to do? Guide ourselves towards happiness…always? Raise our
vibration? The funny thing is, ALL these people really care about is how “they”
feel and they kicker is you have not control over how “they” feel, it is all
controlled by their own perception! You can care about how other people feel,
and understand that it will not make them change what they are doing, so it is
best to make good choices for yourself in the meantime.
6) Do not try to fix other people.
And for God’s
sake…do not get sucked into their vibrational universe! Many times when you
begin to find your own way in life, and you begin to raise your own vibration,
it can be hard not to want to “help” other’s around you. Because it feel’s
good, so you want everyone to feel this way! In fact, many times people will
come to you for advice, and guidance, wanting to learn what you know, and do
what you did. If they are of high vibration it is great, because you will see
them learn and grow right away. They will take information that you share with
them and run with it immediately! Other times, when they are committed to their
low vibration as a lifestyle, those people will never change. They take the
information and the help, yet they tend to stay in the exact same place.
Needing more information and more help. And when dealing with those types of
people, the indicators are very clear, you will not see any progress. They are
the worst because they will try and suck you in to their world. The world of
low vibration, yes…they can actually lower your vibration and they will! Just
by spending too much time with people of low vibration, it can actually lower
your own vibration. So do not get sucked in!
7) Make good choices on who you surround
yourself with.
Pay close
attention to the people who you currently surround yourself with. The people
who you talk with most often on the phone, the people who you spend the most
time with in person, and the people that you are consistently around during
other times, such as at working hours.
Vibrations whether they are low or high,
will attract other like (or similar) vibrations.
So if you are
surrounded by people who are holding a low vibration, you may find that your
vibration is not as high as it could be. If this is the case, you may want to
adjust who you surround yourself with, and surround yourself with people who
will help to raise your vibration. (Personally, I feel that it is important to
always have people in your life helping you to achieve your highest vibration
possible). This may result in you having to make some major adjustments, as to
limit the affect some people have on your life right now. Follow the tips
above, and if all else fails you may have to resort to number eight.
8) Cut them out of your life.
If all else
fails, yes…you may have to let some relationships go. If they are unhealthy or
causing you discomfort, it can be a problem. Well, they are a problem, which
you can ignore for awhile, until it is too late. When problem relationships are
allowed to be in your life for too long, the stress of these relationships will
many times manifest itself physically. Your physical body will suffer as a
result. Things such as high blood pressure, heart issues, and low immune system
can all be a result from dealing with the stress that comes with these toxic
relationships.
People change
over the years and sometimes you are no longer a vibrational match with the
people who have been in your life for years. When this becomes very apparent to
you, and you have tried all of the other things here, with no avail, the last
resort may be to cut them out of your life. Especially if the affect they are
having on your life, is affecting you in a negative way. As sad as this is, it
may be a spouse, mother, father, sister, brother, best friend, or boss. It does
not have to be permanent, and you may not even want to make that determination right
now, as they may change in the future, allowing the relationship to be resumed.
I suggest this as a last resort, but sometimes this is the only way. The only
way to minimize the affect “energy vampires” have on your life.
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Excerpt from my book:
"Energy Vampires: How to Deal With Negative People"
