How To Tell If You Are An Empath... #SpiritChat

How to Tell If You Are An Empath #SpiritChat Episode #11

We've been having a ton of fun doing #SpiritChat sessions! So many good questions...If you are new and don't know what a #SpiritChat session is:

• It's a live streaming Q&A session where I answer questions about all things spiritual.
• I've been doing them about once a week on my FB page which you can findHERE  (I am at my friend limit but you can still "follow" me which allows you to ask questions).
• Or in my Higher Purpose Learning FB group. (A private group devoted to helping people to raise their vibration through Higher Purpose Learning!) 

I do different #SpiritChats in both places. However, I did learn that I have a fairly large group of people who follow me who are not active on social media. So if you are one of those people I've decided to start posting them to YouTube so you could still enjoy them. Or simply click on the video below :)

P.S. If you enjoyed the video you might enjoy this blog post:
 6 Signs You Are An Empath

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5 Signs Of An “Energy Vampire”

There are a few very easy ways to tell if someone is an energy vampire, and some that are not as so easy. For the most part, however, they do not try to disguise themselves in any way, because they do not feel anything is wrong with them. They feel that they are normal. 

5 Signs Of An “Energy Vampire”

1) Negative people!

Negative people are very easily spotted. Especially since they tend to pride themselves on the fact that they think this way. They are negative thinkers and they complain about everything. They are very powerful in their negative thinking. Even sometimes to the point of being overbearing.

• They like to point out in a very arrogant manner how “stupid” people are around them, people who  “believe” in a better way, or “believe” that things will get better.

• They don’t understand why these people refuse to accept the fact that life sucks, and bad things happen!

• They complain about everything, from the weather, to what is on (or not on) TV.

• They are argumentative, and they argue about everything. If you say the sky is blue, they will say it is aqua, or that it is actually an “illusion”.

Negative people like to be argumentative, and they love to bring people down to their level, or bring other peoples vibration down. They same way in which negative people become very apparent on your radar, when you begin to raise your vibration. Positive people are also very much on the radar of negative people, so if you are positive or becoming enlightened, or more spiritual, you will stand out to them, making them uncomfortable. Since they are also very aware of any mismatched vibrations, they pride themselves on being able to bring other people down to their level (or vibration). This may not be something that they say verbally, but internally this is something they seek and strive for. It makes them feel more comfortable.

2) People who are depressed, sad, needy, or critical most of the time.

This is similar to number one, however, instead of being overbearing, they have more of a victim undertone. Everyone has felt this way on occasion, and experiencing these emotions from time to time is totally, and completely normal. However, what I am talking about are people who chronically feel this way, with only brief bouts of happiness. These people are not hard to spot; in fact, you probably can name all of the people you know like this in under a minute.

• They are depressed, and sad, with a victim like undertone to who they are.

• They seem to be a victim to everything.

• They may have an “I am not good enough or smart enough” attitude.

• They take no responsibility for their own life or situation, because it is not their fault, life has dealt them a bad hand.

• They are very NEEDY people!

Now granted some of these people do need to be on medication, or need professional help. But others do not. They are just cranky, needy people! They do not think there is anything wrong with them, and make this behavior a lifestyle.

These types of people will most likely never change, even when you sit down and try and help them find a way out. You must always be there holding their hand, telling them that things will be okay, guiding them towards the right direction.

They are incredibly draining and frustrating to deal with, because they are also very deceiving.

What I mean by deceiving is you can spend a great amount of time helping them with a situation, or helping them to “feel better”, and you can actually begin to feel like you are make some progress. They appear to be a little bit better, and they express eternal gratitude for you having helped them. So you leave their presence, feeling like you did a really good deed for the day. Only to realize later, that it was a temporary “feel better” moment. When you were not around, they went right back to square one. So you start over again, trying to guide them towards a better life again. You can clearly see it, why can’t they?

Because, this is who they are, a better life is unreachable.

You cannot, and will not, ever be able to help someone in this situation. If this is a repetitive pattern, they need a professional who is not “emotionally invested” in the outcome, and most likely this is not you. They need to find it within themselves to want to make a change in their life and you cannot do it for them, it has to be an internal wish.

These types of people tend to be very comfortable where they are at in life, we are just uncomfortable watching them stay there.

This is no joke. People many times resist with all of their might moving out of their comfort zone, and this is a comfort zone for some people. They need their own “aha” moment, and unfortunately, this is something which has to be discovered on their own.

3) People who are searching to fill a void in their life.

This can be a tricky one, because unlike the other four signs here, this one is not always easily detected. When people are unfulfilled in their own life, sometimes it is very easy to tell, as they will represent some of the other signs as well. But sometimes, when people begin to search for another way of thinking, or they begin to search for a purpose, which fulfills them. They can become what is called a “human sponge”. Which is both good and bad. They will sponge up knowledge, and they crave it, as if they have been in the desert without water for a very long time. The knowledge begins to feel like “replenishment” to their system, just as the water would. However, human sponges also tend to soak up as much energy as they can from the outside world, which many times will include you and your energy, if you are in their vicinity.

These people are usually very nice, well-meaning people, in search of something better for themselves.

This is why it can be so tricky, they are not negative, depressed, sad or even critical, but they are just lost souls trying to figure things out. In fact, many times from the outside looking in, they can seem very pleasant. But with a newfound “thirst for knowledge”, also comes a newfound “thirst for energy”, resulting in becoming an energy vampire. As these people begin to find their way, and find purpose in their life, their sponge will begin to fill up. They will no longer need to be an energy vampire, as they will begin to replenish and recharge their own system.

4) Drama queens.

This is pretty self explanatory, but in case you don’t know what a drama queen is, they tend to like drama, or be very drawn to it. They like to cause, or stir up trouble, and get everyone fighting. This can become a very addicting type of behavior, because drama queens like the way it “feels” when energy is all stirred up in a chaotic manner. The chaotic energy they feel from the drama, they enjoy! It gives them excitement! What is really happening, however, is this type of person needs to have drama going on to essentially “distract themselves” from feeling unfulfilled in their own life. So they cause, and start a distraction…aka drama.

When you are doing something exciting, rewarding, or fulfilling with your life, you can feel the energy stirring, internally. Positive stirring of energy feels good…it feels exciting! When you are unfulfilled on a soul level, however, you do not feel any energy stirring up inside. So sometimes people try and figure out how to mimic that feeling. These people many times will mistake “chaotic energy” for the “positive, fulfilling energy” you feel stirring inside when you are doing something rewarding.

5) Angry people.

This can be a rough one. Angry people, like some of the other “energy vampires” are also very easy to spot. However, these energy vampires are different.

These people can be very, very intense.

When dealing with angry people, they draw energy from you in a totally different manner. You put your guard up…literally! You put up an energetic shield in order to protect yourself. This is energetic shield is a real thing. When you feel as if you are walking on eggshells and feel like you need to have your guard up, in actuality, your spiritual body will put up an energetic guard or shield.

An energetic shield, will protect your spiritual self, from their intense anger and energy.

You will expend a lot of energy creating this shield out of necessity and protection. Angry people will then draw upon the energy used to create this shield. They will also go on attack. Here are some ways in which angry people will try and attack you:

1) Verbally.
2) Sometimes physically.
3) Talk about you behind your back.
4) Sabotage you when they can.

5) Do what they can to make your life miserable.

These people tend to have a vicious and evil undertone to them. There intentions are not good, and they seek out people to destroy emotionally or otherwise. This is “the dark side”. When you have to protect yourself energetically, verbally, or physically from someone consistently, there is no way to deal with this type of situation other then cutting them out of your life…period!

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8 Tips For Dealing With “Energy Vampires” & Negative People

I am sure that you have heard the term “energy vampires” before, especially if you are at all interested in psychic ability or psychic development. So what exactly are energy vampires? They are not real vampires, well, I guess they are real vampires, but not like the ones you see in Twilight…energy vampires go after your spiritual body.

“Energy vampires” are people who constantly draw on other people’s energy to help charge their own system. 

There are certain things you need to do when dealing with “energy vampires” in order to help minimize the affect they will have on your life. These tips also tend to be the same tips, as how to deal with negative people in your life, as they essentially fall into the same category. (So you can use energy vampires and negative people interchangeably.)

8 Tips For Dealing With “Energy Vampires” 

& Negative People

1) Awareness!

Awareness is always the key when you are dealing with psychic senses. When you are aware of what energy vampires are, then it is good idea to take a mental note of all of the people in your life who fit this description. People who you are around often, friends, family, and coworkers. Don’t freak out if this list contains most of the people who you know, like I mentioned, it is likely that 70% of the people who you know will match this description. When you are “aware” of who they are, you can then prepare yourself before being in their presence.

2) Bubble yourself.

This is a short “meditation” in a sense. I actually suggest that upon becoming aware of energy vampires you “bubble” yourself every morning after you wake up. Then bubble yourself again before going into the line of fire, so to speak, or before you go into a place where you might be vulnerable. (Empaths should always do this!)

 “Bubble” Meditation

This is just like it sounds. Before you go into a place filled with people you need to bubble yourself. This is like a quick meditation but it does not have too take long. You can easily do this in a couple of minutes, it just important that you do it. A quick two-minute bubble is way better then no bubble at all! In fact that is all you really need. I will walk you through the steps here.

1) Find a quiet place where you will not be disturbed. (However, if you forget to do this before you go out, you can do this in the car before you go in someplace easily enough).

2) Sit comfortably in an up right position. Hands to your side and feet flat on the floor, do not cross your hands, feet or legs.

3) Close your eyes and concentrate on your breathing. Slow your breathing to a relaxed state.

4) When your breathing is rhythmic, then concentrate on relaxing all of the muscles in your body.

5) Next imagine a white light of pure powerful energy coming down from above your head, this white light is from the Holy Spirit, God, or source (whatever you are comfortable with). Feel this energy come through the roof of your house or car, and allow it to gently enter your system through your seventh chakra, or the top of your head. This energy feels good, empowering and protective.

6) Allow this white light energy to touch each chakra while it recharges your spiritual body. Continue to let the white light flow through your system until you feel fully charged.

7) Next allow the excess energy to fill a bubble around you. “Feel and direct” this white light energy by way of thought to form a large bubble surrounding around your entire being. This powerful white light is recharging your energetic field with new energy, strong and protective energy. Feel this energy charging your system as it continues out into the bubble. Once the bubble is full, feel the strength of the bubble. Nothing can penetrate the bubble from the outside. It is like a protective barrier around your being.

8) Remain in this state until you feel a sense of completion, then release this image into the Universe and go about your day.

There is no right or wrong as to the time you spend creating the bubble, you should adjust the time to whatever feels right to you. It will help to protect you from “energetic vampires”, which empaths are extremely susceptible to, more so than most people. This bubble works as a barrier to outside energies.

3) Learn how not to take things so personally.

This will help you to strengthen your energy. When someone says something to upset you or something mean to you, it is hard not to take things personally. It is hard not to get your feelings hurt, or not to become upset, because it feels like you have just been assaulted somehow. This is a very common reaction, yet not the best reaction to have. When you take things personally you make an energetic shift into more of a victim mentality. Victims are very prone to “energy leaks” and your system will feel weak, not strong. Plus, it is important to remember:

When someone says something intentionally to hurt you (even if they are good people), it is done with the intent of bringing your vibration down.

Ask yourself, “What is causing them to want to bring my vibration down?” This allows you to release it right away, as you are preoccupied with trying to figure out the answer to this question. And you will find out, most of the time, you will know the answer right away!

4) Find a subject they like to talk about.

When people find something that they like to talk about, you will feel their energy shift right away. Their vibration immediately begins to rise. It is the best trick I ever learned. So when you find yourself around someone who is negative, find their soft spot and ask them about it.

It’s all about distraction and redirecting their energy to something that brings them joy.

Happiness and joy will always raise your vibration no matter who you are. They will forget about everything else for a minute and they will get excited. For instance if you know they love to garden, talk to them about gardening. If they like sports, bring up that subject. You don’t have to know one thing about the subject they are interested in, just ask them questions. They love to answer questions! It makes them feel good and you may even learn something in the mean time.

5) Limit your time with them.

If they call you on the phone, don’t always answer, and when you do, keep it short. If you see them in person, excuse yourself quickly, even if you have to make up something to do. Yes, even if you have to lie! Many times it is the only way out, especially if you do not want to “hurt” their feelings. Most people feel they must “deal” with their family no matter what, just because they are family. Not true. It is a choice, and if family members happen to be causing you discomfort, you are allowed to limit your time with them. It does not make you a bad person, it makes you different people, with very different vibrations. It makes you very aware of wanting to stay spiritually and physically healthy. That does not make you selfish, it makes you smart.

Steer clear of people who often use the words “your selfish”. HUGE indicator of being an energy vampire and of low vibration!

What these people are really saying is, “You are not doing what makes me feel good! You are only doing what makes you feel good and that is selfish!” What? Isn’t that what we are supposed to do? Guide ourselves towards happiness…always? Raise our vibration? The funny thing is, ALL these people really care about is how “they” feel and they kicker is you have not control over how “they” feel, it is all controlled by their own perception! You can care about how other people feel, and understand that it will not make them change what they are doing, so it is best to make good choices for yourself in the meantime.

6) Do not try to fix other people.

And for God’s sake…do not get sucked into their vibrational universe! Many times when you begin to find your own way in life, and you begin to raise your own vibration, it can be hard not to want to “help” other’s around you. Because it feel’s good, so you want everyone to feel this way! In fact, many times people will come to you for advice, and guidance, wanting to learn what you know, and do what you did. If they are of high vibration it is great, because you will see them learn and grow right away. They will take information that you share with them and run with it immediately! Other times, when they are committed to their low vibration as a lifestyle, those people will never change. They take the information and the help, yet they tend to stay in the exact same place. Needing more information and more help. And when dealing with those types of people, the indicators are very clear, you will not see any progress. They are the worst because they will try and suck you in to their world. The world of low vibration, yes…they can actually lower your vibration and they will! Just by spending too much time with people of low vibration, it can actually lower your own vibration. So do not get sucked in!

7) Make good choices on who you surround yourself with.

Pay close attention to the people who you currently surround yourself with. The people who you talk with most often on the phone, the people who you spend the most time with in person, and the people that you are consistently around during other times, such as at working hours.

Vibrations whether they are low or high, will attract other like (or similar) vibrations.

So if you are surrounded by people who are holding a low vibration, you may find that your vibration is not as high as it could be. If this is the case, you may want to adjust who you surround yourself with, and surround yourself with people who will help to raise your vibration. (Personally, I feel that it is important to always have people in your life helping you to achieve your highest vibration possible). This may result in you having to make some major adjustments, as to limit the affect some people have on your life right now. Follow the tips above, and if all else fails you may have to resort to number eight.

8) Cut them out of your life.

If all else fails, yes…you may have to let some relationships go. If they are unhealthy or causing you discomfort, it can be a problem. Well, they are a problem, which you can ignore for awhile, until it is too late. When problem relationships are allowed to be in your life for too long, the stress of these relationships will many times manifest itself physically. Your physical body will suffer as a result. Things such as high blood pressure, heart issues, and low immune system can all be a result from dealing with the stress that comes with these toxic relationships.

People change over the years and sometimes you are no longer a vibrational match with the people who have been in your life for years. When this becomes very apparent to you, and you have tried all of the other things here, with no avail, the last resort may be to cut them out of your life. Especially if the affect they are having on your life, is affecting you in a negative way. As sad as this is, it may be a spouse, mother, father, sister, brother, best friend, or boss. It does not have to be permanent, and you may not even want to make that determination right now, as they may change in the future, allowing the relationship to be resumed. I suggest this as a last resort, but sometimes this is the only way. The only way to minimize the affect “energy vampires” have on your life. 

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Excerpt from my book:

"Energy Vampires: How to Deal With Negative People"

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